I have seen people creating lovely moments that were planned for bridal showers and baby showers. People look for gifts and outfits to attend and find a way to attend and afford. It means whatever you put your mind on anything is possible for busy moms. It all starts with a decision to make time daily.
Our childen grow so fast, not so long ago our babies were new born babies but now they can feed themselves, get themselves to the bathroom, bath themselves and time really moves. It is possible to realise after children are in their teens that you missed time with them when they were toddlers and before their teens. I know how challenging toddlers can be, our royal priesthoods have grown with the first born Charis (8), Shalom (4) and Kairos (3) and it is important not to lose our bond with them while they are young.
We do so well in engaging on social media which is totally okay because we are social beings but our responsibility to love, nuture, give time affection and attention are very important. All we are doing daily with our children is planting seeds that will grow and we have to eventually harvest later especially in their teens and maybe shape up whom they will become in life. Psalms 22:6 reads ” Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it”
How often do you put down your cellphone or gadgets just to focus on your children?
As a parent you feel a major disconnection with your children when your attention is divided. Sometimes that feeling could come as a huge feeling of disatisfaction at home, being overly distracted because we sometimes we cover our weaknesses with many disteactions and not face them head on.
I recall quitting social media when our 3rd baby arrived, but i do regret completely shutting myself off from the world because i have three years to catch up on on the media world and it can be tough. What i have learnt is to minimise the use of gadgets around your children as much as possible not necessarily cutting it off. You still need the genuine connections you make on social media. It is an art of balancing it well, i use the Digital Wellbeing and Parental controls settings that have screen time, app timers and wind down time.
Children will not remember how you went to work to provide for them but they desire oneness, an intimate relationship with their parents or guardians to not just be told they are loved but to have a knowing of Love. Okay wait, they will remember and acknowledge when they are older but now they are young, they know you are their super hero and all they want is not just your gifts but your time too.
I usually have my moments too as a parent where i focus to much on the blog and social media ads yet i work fulltime but there is this void that hits me really hard and i realise i need to disconect just a bit online with social media and connect with our children and my husband. Children grow so well in an environment where the parents are one with each other and its the best gift parents can ever give to your children. A safe and peaceful environment.
The girls love different things but mostly they have things in common like loving tea parties, picnics, dressing up, girl time and flowers. We can simply find ways to get these or make it possible for them. What i love is children do not really need a price tag on these things but for you to remember and honour what they love too. It encourages them as they develop who they are.
Our son Charis (8) loves worship songs and he just sings and carries a microphone all day. Its his passion, we sometimes sing along with him and now he leads our daily prayers at home with our children.
When you have toddlers and i believe teenagers too the temptation is to frown more times than you actually smile at them. They are mostly messing the house, too energetic, breaking things and its easier to lose focus in giving them love by shouting constantly and i too find myself shouting but when you realise then you stop. How can we make our homes conducive for their growth because they need to play and be free as they learn the environment and feed their curiosity.
Often its easier to focus on deadlines at work and many challenges we face as parents when we are at home because we need to focus on so many things to be done in the home.
Whenever possible save some cash for an outing just to relax and focus on the children i believe this help refocus just on children.
One may say that there is not enough money sometimes but there are many ways to bond without spending much. I love taking walks, hiking, picnics, movie marathon great for children and playing their favourite games.
My husband and i have really energetic children so we choose our hangout spots with them wisely😀.We love these place in Eswatini thst is, Malolotja Nature Reserve, Maguga Dam Restaurant, Sibebe Rock Spur, Malandela’s has a large space for children to explore and just trying new places together. Its really fun!
Another reason we really prioritise their outings is because they school at home. They have always been homeschooled and vacations came top to our list of priorities. We registered them at a real school at Abeka Academy in Pensacola, Florida USA. I helped them for classes earlier as they have their teacher online and now we got a teacher to maximise their time for class who fascilitates their studies with their teacher at Abeka to meet deadlines. If you find yourself interested in homeschooling especially in these times visit http://www.abeka.com a Christian school and you can even chat to them online. For more information feel free to email me email@example.com
I remember this one time i was off work and i took time to go with them to a restaurant in Mbabane while daddy was at work. Resist the temptation to take your nanny with you on their outings most times children just want some time alone with you.
One of the reasons we chose a helper that commutes daily is to focus completely on children when we are home and learn to help each other as husband and wife in taking care of them and we have grown in taking care of each other with the children too. They grow knowing that whatever help they need when we are home they get it from us and not our nanny. Our nannies are so important to us and our children but we can learn to balance our quality time too.
My husband adds that sometimes we overwhelm our homes with relatives and children hardly find one on one times with parents, pay attention to such things or find a way to make your children a priority admist it all.
Have conversations with your children and they will hint in their words things they really like and things they really do not like. They will even tell you how a nanny treats them while you are not home but that may not be possible if the nanny is always around. If you choose to have a stay in nanny try to have many off weekends for the nanny to get to know your babies better if it is possible.
Recently i started cooking with the whole family so we bond when time is limited as suggested by a friend on social media, i totally love it.
Having a social life is not a bad thing at all, you can actually learn so much from others but it is important to make time for the family too. I noticed over the years that males normally associate such a lifestyle as western and normally belittle men who love their wife and children and makes time for them. The decision lies with the husband and a wife what they want for their family, how they see themselves living their life whether its based on other people’s opinion or on what they believe the Word of God desires for them.
When leading a family it requires spiritual maturity so to know what things you can or cannot allow to your family. A man is the leader in the family and he leads how he desire his family to be. The word of the Lord emphasises on praying for our leaders. It is not as easy because the decisions affects later generations too.
1 Timothy 3:4
Thank you for spending this time with me, remember that i am not just here to tell you what to do but to bring you to a state of awareness concerning happy times with our families. Let us have fun my loves and bond in our unique ways that blend well with who you are and your purposecas a family together.
I love you so much. #Godblessyouandyourfamilies